Thursday, December 24, 2009

My virtuous wife Mrs. Taffy and how I love her...

Hello everyone,

Today's post is not made by Mrs. Taffy. This one is being made by Mr. Taffy today. I am sneakily invading the blog to let everyone know how wonderful my wife is. I have been taken back tonight with how thoughtful and diligent she has been towards our family.

Most Christmas seasons Mrs. Taffy and I have grown up with as children or given as parents culminated in the gift giving/opening ritual or some sort. When we came to understand how much God really did love us all, we began to shed many of the traditions that did not bring honor to the Lord. We have tried to replace some of those traditions with new ones that help bring our children to understand what God's heart really is in life. Gifts are one of those traditions that we have kept over the years as I have on many occasions witnessed gifts given by the Lord to ourselves and others.

Over the last few years, we had more than enough money to give gifts, give to organizations, give time etc... We took some care in making purchases that God would be happy with as opposed to buying whatever trendy item filled the stores that year, but nonetheless, we had the funds. This year, however, has been just about exactly the opposite.

As many of you know, I have been without work the entire year. At the beginning of the year, I was not that concerned as we had some savings from previous years built-up to weather this type of situation. As the weeks became months a little over a year now, I have had my share of frustrated, miserable, and at times self-pitiful days. As this Christmas rolled around, I could not deny that inside I wanted my family to be blessed with some gift(s) that said I love you.

Mind you, our children have been wonderful - every one of them. Never complaining... only offering help to each other and others... but I still wanted to bless them somehow. Frankly, I was a bit depressed over my own stuff and not knowing how things were going to turn out for them just made that a little bit worse.

So... tonight we sat by the fire in a room filled with warmth and opened presents. Mrs. Taffy surprised me by having gifts of all kinds for each child. She has spent the last nine months finding gifts for the moment we had tonight. They were gifts she found for virtually no money at garage sales, goodwill, and by selling things on Amazon. There were new gifts... nice gifts... personal... and they let each one of our children know that we love them and have been thinking about them.

Now, it's not that having a gift makes it be ok or something as if that is really a need. Nope, rather our children have probably been modeling that life lesson better than us at times. It is simply that my wife did not luckily find a gift in time or happen to come across a great deal, rather she purposefully, willfully set out to make happiness occur tonight. She gave where I thought there was nothing and made a lot of smiles tonight. She gave me a gift of peace and helped me sleep better one more night.

Thanks Mrs. Taffy! I love you!

Proverbs 31:10-31 (NKJ)

    10 Who can find a virtuous wife?
      For her worth is far above rubies.
       11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
      So he will have no lack of gain.
       12 She does him good and not evil
      All the days of her life.
       13 She seeks wool and flax,
      And willingly works with her hands.
       14 She is like the merchant ships,
      She brings her food from afar.
       15 She also rises while it is yet night,
      And provides food for her household,
      And a portion for her maidservants.
       16 She considers a field and buys it;
      From her profits she plants a vineyard.
       17 She girds herself with strength,
      And strengthens her arms.
       18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
      And her lamp does not go out by night.
       19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
      And her hand holds the spindle.
       20 She extends her hand to the poor,
      Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
       21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
      For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
       22 She makes tapestry for herself;
      Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
       23 Her husband is known in the gates,
      When he sits among the elders of the land.
       24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
      And supplies sashes for the merchants.
       25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
      She shall rejoice in time to come.
       26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
      And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
       27 She watches over the ways of her household,
      And does not eat the bread of idleness.
       28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
      Her husband also, and he praises her:
       29 “ Many daughters have done well,
      But you excel them all.”
       30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
      But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
       31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
      And let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:10-31, New King James Version)


  1. That was wonderful! You two are such a special couple! Love you!

  2. Wow, you touched my heart, Michael! I can feel your mom smiling right now! I know she's proud of you all! What a great example of love you have all shown each other!


  3. Having been in this situation this last year - and still recovering from it - it is easy to be an honoring wife when you have a husband of integrity worth following.

    Keep faith - the lesson/struggles/heatache/depression/self-pitying you are going through now will soon become the GREAT Blessing you speak of in the future.

  4. That is beautiful and very touching! I was blessed reading it!


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